Kids With Low Muscle Tone Can Sit For Dinner: A Multi-Course Strategy


Low muscle tone can create so many different issues during mealtime.  Staying still and safe in a chair can be a real issue for these kids, and yet many are seen to be just “behaving badly”.

Here is a roadmap to navigate mealtimes when your child has issues with wriggling, sliding, falling or leaping up every few minutes.

First, understanding how low muscle tone influences behavior can help defuse some of the criticism and arguments.  Low tone creates too much information, as instability creates movement that distracts even the child who is moving.   Inadequate muscle and joint receptor stimulation doesn’t produce enough information in the form of position and movement sense for the brain to process (proprioception and kinesthesia for all you therapists out there). Add in loose ligaments around major joints (it is common to see these two issues together), and your child can really struggle to stay in her chair even with the best intentions.  Imagine yourself in this situation:  you cannot feel that your hips are sliding off the seat until you are just about on the floor, and when you do move, it seems like that is the best way to get more information about where your body is vis-a-vis the chair.  No one wants you to move, and no one wants you to fall.  If your child with low muscle tone decides that she dislikes sitting for meals but happily eats everything standing up or on the run, this could be the reason.

Parents need to start teaching self-feeding skills early and well.  Read Hypermobility Or Low Tone? Three Solutions to Mealtime Problems and Teach Utensil Grasp and Control…Without the Food! for some additional strategies that work.

Get a good chair.  Today.

Kids can start out looking pretty good on a chair, especially if they have a supportive chair that is the right height, seat depth, and provides solid foot placement on the floor or on a footplate. Booster seats that aren’t buckled securely onto a chair are a huge hazard for these children.  Don’t go there.   The Tripp Trapp chair has been the go-to chair for a lot of children with muscle tone issues for years.  There are others that provide similar support without the serious sticker shock.  Look around and ask your therapist what features are important.  Here is a good chair for kids over 7: Need a Desk Chair for Your Hypermobile School-Age Child? Check out the Giantex Chair.   Here is another choice: Finally… A Desk Chair For Your Hypermobile Kid, And it Has a Footrest! .

For an easy way to keep those feet stable on a chair with a footplate, read A Simple Strategy To Improve Your Child’s Posture In A Stokke Tripp Trapp or Special Tomato Chair.


One adaptation I like for these chairs or booster seats with a smooth surface is using non-skid shelf liner as a seat mat.  It can be cut to your exact seat dimensions and cleaned easily.  I don’t recommend adhering it to the seat.  The mat gives a little bit of grip on clothing that limits the sliding on a smooth wooden seat.  Some children like the matting glued to the footplate as well for tactile feedback, but that makes it harder to clean, a tripping hazard at times, and it can bunch up when the adhesive loosens in spots.  If you need more grip. try Dycem.  This rehab staple is available from therapy supply stores and online retailers.  Read about what it can do for your child here; The Not-So-Secret Solution for Your Child With Motor And Sensory Issues: Dycem.

Don’t stop there:

think tableware!

I  like to make custom placemats for younger children that encourage them to place their non-dominant hand on the mat unless it is needed for bowl stabilization. I trace that hand in a location on the mat that is slightly in front of them, next to the traced line for the bowl/plate.

A great resource for dinnerware that doesn’t fly off the table is OXO for Kids: Great Tableware For Older Kids With Sensory and Motor Issues.  Hand-on-the-table is not as polite as “hand in your lap” positioning, but these children often need to use that hand in this position to shift their weight forward through their trunk and use it actively to stabilize their body  during the meal.  The usual result if their hand is left in their lap?  They slump toward one side, or that non-dominant hand will start to twist the tablecloth, bang on the table or make another action to energize or stabilize their nervous system.


Utensil use is often rejected because it can be so frustrating for kids.  Avoid the temptation to allow a finger-feeding diet by teaching good utensil use and giving them good utensils.  i covered this in Which Spoon Is Best To Teach Grown-Up Grasp? and Teach Spoon Grip By Making It Fun And Sharing a Laugh With Your Child.

Safety is always on my mind.  Hopefully on yours too.

Kids with low tone often try to rock while sitting or try to rock the chair to get more proprioception and some vestibular input.  Placing any chair near a wall is often the difference between a child flipping the chair backwards or not.  Banging the chair into the wall once or twice requires a conversation; flipping backward head first may require an E.R. visit!

Being involved in the family meal is always desirable for social skills and developing family togetherness.  For kids with low muscle tone, conversation can help them stay more alert at a time of day when they may be fatigued.  Their desire for movement might be satisfied by socially acceptable actions:  help setting the table, getting up to retrieve things from the kitchen for family members during the meal, and cleaning up.  If you were looking for reward chart items or just assigning household tasks to all family members, this can help everyone.

Want activités apart from mealtime to build skills?  Try Should You Use Pre-Mixed Dough to Bake With Your Toddler? and Doing OT Telehealth? Start Cooking (And Baking)!

Looking for more help with positioning and ADL’s?

I wrote 2 books just for you!

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The JointSmart Child;  Living and Thriving With Hypermobility Volume One:  The Early Years is your manual for finding the right equipment, helping them build all the self-care sills, and is your manual to teach your child how to move safely and independently through these first few years.

I want parents to be empowered and have resources.  Doctors and therapy programs aren’t providing the depth of information parents need.  Read more about my book here: The JointSmart Child Series: Parents of Young Hypermobile Children Can Feel More Empowered and Confident Today!

This book gives parents solid information to help navigate positioning, utensil selection, how to motivate and teach skills to kids ages 0-5.  It offers information on improving communication with family members, babysitters, teachers and even doctors!  There are blank forms to help parents think through their questions and feel confident in every situation!

Is your child over 5, and still sliding all over the place at the dinner table?

You need Volume Two!!!

This book covers mealtimes, but it goes into how to manage school, sports, and music lessons too!  Pick out the right bike, the best pencils, and the correct desk for homework (hint:  the kitchen island isn’t usually the best spot to write!)

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My books are available as a PAPERBACK and also as an affordable read-only download on Amazon , or on  Your Therapy Source  as a printable and click-able download.  Read it today and start feeling more confident as a parent right away!

By Cathy Collyer

I am a licensed occupational therapist, licensed massage therapist, and certified CBT-i sleep coach in private practice in the NYC area. I have over 25 years of professional experience in adult and pediatric treatment. It has been a joy to help people of all ages improve their ability to grow and thrive! Occupational therapists are focused on enhancing a client's functioning in everyday life. We are practical healthcare providers, interested in teaching, adapting actions and environments, and building a client's useful skills for living their best life, regardless of their challenges. I am the author of five books, including "Staying In The Room: Managing Medical And Dental Care When You Have DID" and "The Practical Guide To Toilet Training the Autistic Child". I lecture on many subjects, including sleep, trauma, and development. Contact me to learn more about how I can help you achieve YOUR goals!

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