Elf on the Shelf Controversy: Let’s Try Positive Gossiping to Santa

The recent discussion surrounding the popular toy “Elf on the Shelf” has been more heated than one might expect for a holiday tradition.  For every family that finds him charming and motivating, there is another family that sees him as a creepy little elf, holding the threat of tattling to Santa over toddlers’ heads.

I suggest that if you think he is cute, and your children like the magical elements to the story,  you could alter the “backstory’ as they say in Hollywood.  What about giving the elf the responsibility of only sharing a child’s positive behavior with Santa?  He might watch for sharing, cooperation, and patience.  Just like the Gossiping technique in Happiest Toddler on the Block, you can tell the elf (well within your child’s hearing) what wonderful things he has done each day.

If a child has already heard the standard version, simply explain that the elf’s job description has been changed due to your child’s maturity.  New holiday season, new plan.

By Cathy Collyer

I am a licensed occupational therapist, licensed massage therapist, and certified CBT-i sleep coach in private practice in the NYC area. I have over 25 years of professional experience in adult and pediatric treatment. It has been a joy to help people of all ages improve their ability to grow and thrive! Occupational therapists are focused on enhancing a client's functioning in everyday life. We are practical healthcare providers, interested in teaching, adapting actions and environments, and building a client's useful skills for living their best life, regardless of their challenges. I am the author of five books, including "Staying In The Room: Managing Medical And Dental Care When You Have DID" and "The Practical Guide To Toilet Training the Autistic Child". I lecture on many subjects, including sleep, trauma, and development. Contact me to learn more about how I can help you achieve YOUR goals!

Leave a Reply

%d bloggers like this: